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Why is it that African Americans who enjoy learning, aspire to do well in school by securing high grades, and/or speak proper English are often labeled as "acting White" by other African Americans?
This event is crippling our progress and leads to the adoption of other unhealthy attitudes and behaviors. Those that subscribe to this notion are disconnected with and unaware of our historical passion for learning and education. We must turn this around soon.

Asked by bigenyc 7 months, 1 week ago
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sayjuan2006 says:
I grew up being called an OEREO you know Black on the outside white on the inside, and I am grown now and still from people I know and meet today because of this same reason. I had so many kids telling me I think I am white because of the way I speak and the way I carry myslef and this was in the early 70's now fast foward to now and my son is being called "Carlton" you know the kid from the Fresh Prince who was just being himself like I was. It is pure fear which drives a person to do that, they want what we have and have no idea how to do it so they say I am just going on the attack to make a person feel as bad as I do. To tell you the truth I am sick of it because I teach my son to be the best that he can be and if you are not getting it at home it is not up to you to try and make me and my son feel any type of way about. It has to end because all it is doing is just tearing our community apart in more ways than one and the kids who do not know how to handle themselves feels violence is the best way to go. They feel why work hard, you is just a sucka, I am just gonna take mine. We need to work on it quick.....

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bigenyc says:
Sayjuan2006- thanks for the response as I feel the pain and frustration of you and your son. I believe that you will continue to support your son by emphasizing that he is "O.K."

My "Deepest Fear" (the title of an excellent poem) is that young (and older) persons like your son will succumb to the negative peer pressure. We must acknowledge and celebrate that our greatness runs across a mighty continuum as we speak of genius, achievement, and our passions.

"The Pact", by the Three Doctors, is a wonderful book for you and your son to read. It truly captures the essence of "positive" peer pressure which is a skill set "we" need to master.

Take care.

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bygINCpresents says:
there is a perversive movement afoot which champions anti-intellectualism in all its forms. the movement actually calls it dissent or un-american to think critically. sad reality, correct? and it's not confined to young, black people. americans are lied to each day, told what to think and believe as true. a war is raging now based on a marketed lie many have to believe as righteous b/c their elected leaders have been marketed as being righteous. my point is, anything can be sold to the young, the uninformed, the intellectually unwilling... the lazy

i was the proverbial black overachiever growing up. i lived in a new jersey suburb my first year in america. when i moved to brooklyn the following year, i rarely talked b/c i "sounded white". it took me a while to accept that anyone would sound that way if they lived in a white, suburban neighborhood their first year in a new country, just trying to understand everything.

i came to accept a few other things about that white neighborhood and it's accent. i saw the higher eduction lived in many houses, so did well-paying jobs, cars, the dream marketed as america, and all else. i brought that ethic --not that it doesn't exist in other communities in this country-- to brooklyn with me, and when i finally began talking to my peers, i was couched in a hybrid-blackness i spent countless hours struggling to define while my peers were drowned in its darker side.

to succeed in america and earn the things one needs to survive and thrive, a --for lack of a better term-- "middle class" work ethic must be understood. it's another language any person wanting distinction here must learn. you don't have to use that language everyday, everywhere, but you must recognize it when you hear it and be willing to respond.

so keep teaching your children it's okay to be themselves no matter what. help them define their own version of blackness along the road to becoming the successes they want to be. blackness is too big, too broad, too glorious to be limited to adolescent fears. teach your kids better. show them better so they can become the BEST.

Click the link below in "Source" to hear me talking about the reality of being a black boy living righteous today. Send comments to bygINCpresents@live.com.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugA0grC8D3I


Source: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugA0grC8D3I
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