bygINCpresents says:
i have a biding interest in talking to boys like your son who are becoming unaware what it has been to be black in america and what they need to do to tap into that power. i'm not making any aspersions about his intelligence. i just think there used to be an internal dialogue going on in the minds of black children about what it means to be black in america. we had to think such thoughts because the definitions placed on us were not our own. the definitions still exist is some sectors but the INTERNAL dialogue, the battling with, the caring about, the holding onto, the pride in being, the joy in living that blackness... is lacking. i want t talk to young folks about that reality and what it may mean for our future.

i've started by telling my black boy story. i talk about my middle school years and the transformations that took place there in terms of how i felt about myself as a black boy becoming a black man in america. click on the link below and watch a video or two with your son. let me know what comes up in discussion... bless.


Source: http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=F3C1059042142A62
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faye2020ts says:
After reading your post and thinking about it. I am sure that you have done well teaching your son about his heritage. I do not think that his comment had anything to do with your teaching. Do not let his comment make you question your parenting. Being a parent/single parent is difficult enough already.

From his comment it seems he has noticed a difference in self-conduct/self-restraint between his female peers at school. I would ask him if they seemed "loud" or "outspoken" there is a subtle difference he may not recognize at age 11. As females, we know we cannot really be labeled one way or another as a group.....we have to many "variables". As a young man he may not realize this yet.

This does seem like something you could discuss with your pastor or school counselor. I would suggest praying about it and keep praying.....you will receive the guidance you need. If you are not really comfortable with the church you attend by all means change. Spriritual growth is important.

The fact that you are a "single" parent and still take the time out to attend church says alot about the values you are teaching your son. Just as you have faith in god, have faith in yourself.

Good Luck and God Bless

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